Just Ask Justin

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02 Jan Just Ask Justin

On a regular basis people approach me to ask me questions about life’s curves balls and the logistics of things that people hear me say. With so much to do and so little time to respond to all these questions I find myself not being able to answer all of their questions in the moment.

Just Ask Justin is your opportunity to write to me with your questions about life. There is no limit to what you can ask. Weekly I’ll be gathering these questions together and responding to them collectively through blogs or video blogs with thought provoking ideas and challenges that will guide you to answers you’ve been looking for.

So feel free to write down your questions, but prepare yourself for an honest answer!

  • Trapped and Hopeless
    Posted at 23:31h, 01 March Reply

    So I have been listening to your podcasts with Blair for about a week now having been introduced to them through my son ( lives in Redding too). The first cast I listened to was “Straight Eye for the Queer Guy” and was impressed with your viewpoint on SSA. Problem is I have struggled with with this issue all my life – since my earliest childhood memories, I now find myself in debilitating pain and turmoil having struggled for decades and really getting nowhere. I recently went to a men’s conference that stirred up all kinds of issues that generate incredible pain and turmoil. I hate who I am, am living in a hopeless dead marriage for 30 years, feel my life is a total waste and failure, don’t ever feel or hear God on the SSA issue or really any sense of His love in a tangible way, and I feel incredibly lonely, isolated and lacking as a man. I have never had sex with another man but now wonder if I shouldn’t have tried it to see. But then I felt that all barriers would have fallen and I’d be on my way to hell. Instead I ended up a pathetic life of living in fantasy and regrets. My prayer is that God would end my life and take away the pain.

    At this conference, one speaker said this and it sure feels true for me. “People don’t live out of what they know, they live out of what they feel.” I know all the stuff that God is supposed to affirm for us and love us…problem is I never feel it. I first went to a counselor when I was in my early 30’s – been many other places too over the next 30 years, yet doesn’t ever bring lasting relief or end the pain. I keep getting sucked back into the powerful pain of self rejection and no sense of identity. Don’t know why I felt the need to write all this, but I felt a connection with what you were saying. I’m glad that somehow you were able to find a way out… other Christian guys I know did not and perished from AIDS, gave up on God, or gave themselves over to a totally gay lifestyle.

  • Claire White
    Posted at 00:49h, 03 March Reply

    Hi Justin,
    I appreciate you and your wife Abi so much!!! Do y’all have a study materials that to teach us how to validate people and communicate love to our children and spouse in a stressful environment? Thank you for sharing what you have learned!!! Claire